Relationship Problems?

Can you remember when you were younger and had special feelings for someone of the opposite sex?   You didn’t really know that person but you had butterflies when they were near you.  You thought you knew all about this person.  You really thought it was your “dream” person.

Do You Repeat The Same Relationship Problems?

I can remember experiencing this when I was about sixteen years old.  I dreamed about all kinds of different situations being with this person.  It became a reality and there were  relationship problems, needless to say, it  did not last long.   This person was not what I had expected.  I had already wanted him to be just like what I had built up in my head. 

It wasn’t fair to him because I was projecting what I wanted him to be like but it was not who he was.  As you have matured, hopefully you have learned as I have, that you can not change people, only yourself.  Below is an article by Andrea Woolf that explains what we have probably all done at one time or another, especially when we were younger. 

How Do Unrealistic Expectations Cause Relationship Problems? by Andrea Woolf

Many relationship problems are caused when you project onto another person what you want in or from them. And most of the time, this is unspoken – in other words, it’s all in your mind!

How many people do you know who are in relationships either hoping the other will change or just seeing them the way they want them to be and not necessarily how they are?

 Have you ever experienced feeling hurt about something your partner did or didn’t do, and then kept it to yourself?  You held it inside and they didn’t have a clue what was going on with you.

How this plays out is you hold onto these hurt feelings and down the line they cause problems in your relationship.  It started way back when but, instead of handling it then, you held it inside you and didn’t communicate.  Then like a snowball, you keep rolling it down the hill so it gets bigger and bigger, collecting more mass and energy, until one day you just explode.

Does this sound familiar?

Alternatively, have you ever lived through the scenario where you had no clue what was going on with the other person and they were withholding all kinds of feelings?  This scenario happens all too often and it’s another huge cause of relationship problems.  One person is hoping the other gets what’s not okay, but doesn’t actually communicate it.

 Relying on psychic ability is far from an effective strategy to create and sustain great relationships!

Another key source of relationship problems is assuming something about another.  It’s an interesting experience when another assumes something about you. Nine times out of ten they are completely off-base, right?

This works in reverse too!  When you assume stuff about another, nine times out of ten it’s not going to be accurate either. For example, when we women assume that our significant other knows what we want or expect and they don’t, it can become a HUGE issue.

Article Source – Click Here to read the rest of the original article to find out what the biggest relationship problems are and some professional advice on how to handle it!  Andrea Woolf is at www.igniteyourlifebook.com

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